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| Fred, Idowu and Thomas |
People’s temperament and personality
dictate what they do when faced with a challenging issue; they dictate
people’s reaction to a matter. While some people may choose to stay calm
in the midst of certain life storms, others may feel too disturbed to
stay calm. Marriage has its own challenging moments and different
partners react differently.I asked some people what they would do if they met their spouses at an event with another lover, and here are their responses
She will have to explain herself
Ajani Yusuf
It depends on the kind of party. As long
as I didn’t know she would be there. I will do as if I didn’t see her, I
will call anyone at home to know if she’s at home so I can be very sure
she’s the one and to ascertain that she was not at home. When she comes
back, she would have to explain where she went to. It’s obvious she
didn’t tell me before going, so she would have to explain herself. In
fact, it’s not going to be easy between us. I might have to trail her
movement that night to know where she went to and whether she would go
home straight and also make sure she didn’t do anything funny. I think I
will let her be for some days until she comes to apologise, so we can
move on. It could be painful.
If another woman takes him there, I’ll take him home
Adeleke Folake
It will be as if it is a drama, but I
will not do anything. Since it is not in my house or on my bed, I will
not act rashly. I will just take a seat very close to my husband
silently. You know silence is a great answer for people. Someone can’t
predict what is in the mind of a silent person. If I choose to fight
there, I will only disgrace myself and my family. I will just be staring
at him. Through that, I must have created fear in him. Another opinion I
have is if another woman takes him there, I will be the one to take him
home. When we get home, I will not say a word. He will be the one to
beg me in the end. But thank God for the life of my husband, he won’t do
that to me because we are friends.
She may leave my house
Tolu Idowu
It won’t be a pleasant experience. If we
have children already, I may be forced to forgive her for the sake of
our children and because we all have faults, but if there is no child
between us, she might have to go back to where she came from if she
doesn’t have a good reason for being there. It could be painful because
this is someone I would have trusted and leaned on. So, the betrayal may
be too much to bear. So, if I catch her, she would have to leave my
house. Seeing her may even make me sad.
I’ll assume he’s cheating on me
Ojeyomi Adewunmi
I will not do anything that could even
attract my husband’s attention. I will be a fool to do that. Meanwhile, I
would not like to create a scene in another person’s event. When we get
home, we will sort the matter out. There could have been a very great
reason for his action and he must have a very good explanation to clear
my doubt, or else I will assume he has started cheating on me.
She will have to leave the place immediately
Amune Thomas
If I’m aware that she would go there, I
won’t take much offence that she was with a man when I saw her because
it is expected that she would meet people at a party. But if she didn’t
tell me she was going to a party and I see her with a man, definitely I
won’t be happy with her. I will make sure she sees me, maybe draw her
attention somehow, and even ask her why she came there. She would have
to leave the place immediately, so when we get home, we will settle it.
She has to explain why she went there, why she lied to me because
invariably she wouldn’t have told me she would be there. It also means
she’s cheating on me. If she hasn’t done it before and she feels sorry
about it, I would forgive her and move on. If she didn’t feel remorse, I
will use it against her and keep reminding her.
I will leave the spot at once
Edith Monday
I will leave the spot at once so that
anger will not consume me to do something stupid that may cause problem.
I will wait until he returns home, but I am so sure he must give me a
reasonable explanation for his action. If I perceive his explanation is
genuine enough, I will forgive him and we will move on. If not, that may
affect the trust I have in him and cause strain in our relationship.
I won’t be too shocked
Olalekan Mohammed
At that moment, I won’t do anything but
my action or disposition would show that I’m not happy about it, so,
when she comes back, she will explain to me what happened. Obviously she
didn’t tell me she would be there so I will demand answers to some
pertinent questions. If she claims the person is a friend, then she has
to explain the kind of friendship because it means I don’t know the
friend, and if she tells me the person is her boyfriend, it won’t be the
end of the world and I won’t be too shocked because I have trained
myself not to be shocked by whatever situation comes my way, so it will
be one of those things. I’m sure we will settle it.
He will face a ‘one-woman’ panel
Olapeju Ayangbile
Well, if it happens that way, I will just
walk up to both of them and greet them. Creating a scene will be too
demeaning for me. He must have prepared a lot of answers because when we
get home, he will sure face a ‘one-woman’ panel, which is me. But no
matter the urgency of such event, if he is truly not cheating on me, he
should have told me. Openness creates room for transparency.
That is the end of the marriage
Adeyemo Adedoyin
It’s a very serious issue because it
shows lost love and absence of trust. I can’t make trouble there, I will
rather wait till we get home so she could pack her things once and for
all because if I try to question her there the man she’s playing or
dancing with may break a bottle and kill me so they can have free time
to themselves. However, when we get home, she will pack her things and
leave my house and she may not need to explain because my mind would be
made up. If we have children already, she won’t go with them, meanwhile,
I’m not even sure the children are mine. A woman that can do that can
kill, so I won’t wait for that.
If we were friends, he should have invited me
Afeye Fred
It depends on the kind of event I met
them and the way they posed. Except if I have heard rumours earlier
about him, I may not bother myself. For instance, if it is an official
event and I see him with another woman, I will remain on my seat. I will
not intrude into their discussion. But normally, my husband should be
able to tell me about his movements. That is why we married. If we are
friends, we should know about each other’s movement
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